Vanity, Honesty and Love

Hey there,

My husband has a road game today and the weather is rainy, cold and miserable in Norway but it is perfect weather to have a nice cozy relaxing day. I had a two hour phone call with my girl Steph! It was really nice to talk to her, catch up and vent. True friends are hard to find. I am really lucky and thankful to have a friend like her.
Sometimes you just need some “me” time to just “be” and enjoy your own company and unwind after a stressful week. It is so zen in my home right now and I am loving every minute of it. I have my PJ’s on, some aromatherapy candles lit, the heat on and a nice warm blanket wrapped around me. I have some calming white noise in the background and I can’t tell you how good I feel right now.

* These are just some thoughts that have been floating around in my head over the past couple of weeks. If you don’t have the intestinal fortitude to look at yourself honestly and without defence, please don’t bother reading this. You would only be wasting your time.  *

On Vanity.

In each of us, there is a soul (an ego), a heart. The vanity that one person sees in another is only a reflection of the vanity that lies within themselves. This is something I’ve come to know and believe very strongly. It’s the bruised ego (pride) within a person that causes them to despise another for having the very thing they secretly covet.

Jealousy.. Envy.. These are just various masks that pride uses when it prefers to keep itself hidden. It is just as vain to hate another person for what you don’t have as it is for them to take pride in what they do have. Don’t fool yourself into believing anything different. If you’re a “hater”, you’re simply a vain person who’s trapped in morbid denial. There’s more hope for someone who’s not hiding their true colors.

Consider that before you point your judgmental finger again. There will always be 3 more pointing back at you.

On Honesty.

In a society where people are so open minded that their brains have fallen out, the word “truth” has to be one of the most minunderstood, mischaracterized and misrepresented words in the English language. When people say, “The truth hurts”, that’s the truth. If you’re the type of person who needs constant and continuous affirmation, even when your actions and attitudes are way off base, you are anything but an honest person.. and your supporters are anything but truthful.

One of the beautiful things about truth is that once you choose to embrace it, you have always conquered a fear. Each time you decide to press past the discomfort of accepting the truth in all of it’s ugliness, you have become free of a demon.

Any thought or idea that disagrees with this simple fact of life is nothing short of a lie. The lie may offer you comfort, but its comfort is false and fleeting. It may seem to give you a leg to stand on for a moment, but it will soon pull the rug out from under you.

When you’re able to listen to the criticism with the same enthusiasm as you welcome the affirmation, then (and only then) can you be anything but a liar yourself.

Remember this the next time you throw a pity party: The truth is never a guest at such gatherings.

On Love.

As broadly as this term is used today, I believe that love is a narrow path, covered in thorns and full of dangers. Only the strongest and the bravest can make it to the destination that is “unconditional love”.

There are those people who live in loves shadow where they feel safe and happy without experiencing the sacrifice and long-suffering that real love requires. I call these people emotional retards. Nothing in this life comes without a price. If you would separate love from pain, you are undeserving of loves pleasures.

Houses aren’t built by simly playing house. They must be constructed first, and the labor is intense.. but the home cannot be enjoyed without the workmans sacrifice.

Love heals. It restores. It enhances. It edifies. It strengthens. And it is self-sacrificing.

It is my belief that there are only a very few people who truly have encountered this kind of love.. and even fewer who are capable of returning it.




  1. Tiffany Fraser
    November 12, 2016 / 6:38 pm

    This is such a good read. I needed this today. It’s been a rough week! Thanks for the lovely, truthful words love. I truly believe you came back into my life for a reason.

    • thediaryofahockeywife
      November 12, 2016 / 6:40 pm

      Awww thank you my love! I’ve missed you xoxo <3

  2. Mike ?
    November 12, 2016 / 6:45 pm

    I really enjoyed this. I miss you babe!

    • thediaryofahockeywife
      November 12, 2016 / 7:33 pm

      thank you 🙂

  3. Tasha
    November 12, 2016 / 7:32 pm

    I love your bluntness lol

    Enjoying your website!!!!!!

    <3 T

    • thediaryofahockeywife
      November 12, 2016 / 7:33 pm

      hahah thanks tasha!!! <3

  4. Josh
    November 12, 2016 / 9:30 pm

    Great job babe. I love you!

    • thediaryofahockeywife
      November 12, 2016 / 11:07 pm

      thanks baby! I love you

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